Title: The Uncensored
Truth: Let’s Talk About Sex
Author: L.G. Erikson
Series: Standalone
Genre: Nonfiction
Publisher: DivisonHouse Publishing
Release Date: Feb 27 2015
Edition/Formats: eBook & Print
Sources: Author
Blurb/Synopsis:
What exactly is mind-blowing sex? Are women and men really
that different? Why is sex so important for our well-being?
The author fearlessly explains in juicy details what it
takes — for anyone — to experience real sexual bliss. "Let's Talk About Sex" gives you an unprecedented insight
into the nature of sexuality from every possible angle. Packed with loads of
information and highly entertaining stories we learn how to discover our true
nature. Whether you're in a relationship or into one night stands, this book
has something for everyone.
In a refreshingly straightforward language, the author
tackles social and sexual taboos and encourages all readers to truly become
themselves.
A bold, fascinating, and empowering read that will make you
rethink everything you've learned about sex.
from chapter 9,
“NORMAL SEX” VS. MIND-BLOWING SEX
It’s always tricky to use the word “normal” to describe something since it’s
a term created by society and it can mean very different things in different
cultures and social settings. So let me elaborate:
When I use the phrase “normal sex,” I mean anything, ranging from the
average “I’m gonna hop on top of you and hump you until I come,” (male) to “I’m
glad that’s over,” (woman). Or “hopefully we got pregnant now,” (mainly women),
“Ok, that was alright,” (man or woman), or “how long do I have to blow you
until you come,” (woman or man…. just replace the latter with ‘eat you’ instead
of ‘blow you’ for the man). Others could be “maybe in time it’ll be more fun”
(either one), and “why does he always finish before I’m ready?” (woman)… and
the list goes on.
To be very clear:
I’m not insinuating
that the sex positions/lack of acrobatics are the problem.
What I mean is the way you involve yourself in the act. You can
have completely traditional sex and it can blow your mind.
Sex acrobatics have nothing to do with it. It’s the enjoyment factor, how
turned on you are. This is a book about breaking through limitations and
dropping judgmental behavior.
However, even when sex is fairly exciting for both parties, there’s often
that subtle feeling that it could be better, that it was better in your head
(as a fantasy, which men as well as women have but often don’t admit to) than
in reality or that something was missing or your sex partner didn’t quite get
what you wanted, and similar things. On a side note, while it is very normal to
have fantasies about sex or other partners, if you have truly mind-blowing sex
this won’t even occur to you while in the act. That’s also a good indicator
that the sex you’re having right now – while in your mind you’re having sex
with the hot neighbor – can’t be that hot after all.
Getting back to the point that somehow this was a tad better in your mind
than in reality, therefore you must face an important fact: you had half-ass
sex, you both didn’t allow yourself to “melt into each other.” Both parties are
guilty of that.
But what exactly do I mean when I use the term “melt into each other”?
Often that happens by accident the first time, which is why most people
don’t understand what it is. They think it’s a onetime thing, some special
sexual connection they have with that one particular person. They often don’t understand
that it was the connecting part with the other person, that they allowed
themselves to really open up to them. I’m not suggesting that you can create
that with everyone, obviously chemistry is always the key, but don’t confuse
sexual chemistry with being in love. Any time you have chemistry with someone,
you have the potential for mind-blowing sex.
I will tell you a few stories to give you an example of mind-blowing sex,
so you get an idea what it feels like....
Thanks for sitting with us today. I hope I haven’t disrupted
your writing schedule too much. Do you
have a strict schedule or do you write when the fancy takes you?
First of all, thanks so much for featuring me in your blog
today - I greatly appreciate that. I generally write when I'm inspired. Sometimes
deadlines are unavoidable and then, writing becomes a bit more like work. I
enjoy writing the most when I can write freely without fixed deadlines.
However, I always have a loosely set time frame in mind when I start writing
something. That way you stay focused but don't feel the pressure to complete
something on one particular day.
Could we start by talking about your latest release? What
was the process like how long did it take, from first thoughts to final
polished copy?
I had the initial idea a few years ago. At first, the
sexuality topic was meant to be part of a larger book concept. However, once I
began writing I realized that I had enough material to center this book solely on
sexuality and all aspects that relate to it. Once I realized that, I was able
to complete the book much faster than originally anticipated. Ultimately, I was
able to finish the first draft in seven weeks.
The editing took almost as long. Then we did the cover design and the
formatting. I started the writing in November 2014 and I had the book ready for
publishing by end of March.
Without giving away too much, could you tell us about your
favorite part of the book?
It was my main purpose to shed light on the nature of
sexuality from every possible angle. I wanted to write something that is
empowering, yet straightforward. I think I'm most happy with its uniqueness. To
my knowledge, there is no other book that covers sexuality this way. It breaks
down stereotypes, it's catered towards both genders, it's for singles, serial
daters as well as people in serious relationships. It debunks a lot of myths
and it tackles many taboos. Lastly, it has some pretty descriptive examples of
mind-blowing sexual encounters.
Could you describe your research process to us? Do you visit
places for inspiration, gather facts from the library or internet, or interview
people in order to gather character traits?
I've always been a keen observer of people, trying to figure
out what motivates them to do certain things. I had the fortune to grow up in
different cultures and to make friends with people from all kinds of social
backgrounds. I've learned a lot about different views of life and how they
shape our society. All of that helped tremendously to write my book. Aside from
that, I've read a lot of books on psychology, the nature of the human mind and -
last not least - about sexuality. While a lot of them had plenty of advice, I concluded
that most of them divided men and women further by stereotyping them in two
basic categories. That by itself was my main inspiration to write this book. I
wanted to offer my audience different viewpoints to an age-old subject. I also
gathered material from online research.
What is the strangest thing you have ever done in the name
of research?
Hmm.... I can't recall anything really strange. Maybe
listening to a phone conversation between a prostitute and a client would
qualify for that?
Do you still find time to read in your daily schedule and if
so, who are your favorite authors and genres?
I don't have one favorite author. I do read all kinds of
different genres; mainly non-fiction though.
How do you usually relax?
Music is very important to me. Music can change one's mood
in an instant. I also enjoy workouts to clear my mind. I like walks on the beach and I go hiking to
relax.
Finally, please tell our readers what the next six months
hold for you?
Currently my main focus is on promoting my book. I'm also
working on new posts for my blog. Later
on this year, I'm going to start with my next book, which will be about human
nature.
Who is L.G. Erikson?
"L.G. Erikson was born on a warm, beautiful day in the
spring of......." - hold on, you can't tell them that!
Okay, let's continue: "She.... He grew up with one brother, mother and father in....." -
never mind, can't tell them that, either.
"He.... She
had the opportunity to experience a lot of different cultures. From early
childhood on, she.... he was very
outspoken and curious about the world and the people in it. That continued
while growing up. He.... she formed
many friendships with people from all kinds of backgrounds, and learned a lot
about.... well.... a lot. In time, it became clear to her.... him, that his ability to think outside
the box needed to be shared with the world, so he started writing down his
observations. Finally, he.... she
realized the time had come to write the first book: The Uncensored Truth: Let's Talk About Sex." - Done. The End.
Wait....What?? Isn't this the section where
you're supposed to tell your readers more about you personally? You're just
gonna leave them in the dark?
Yes! That's exactly what I want!
See, my gender, race, origin, age or real name are
completely irrelevant for the context of my book. How would revealing that
information help me to open their minds?? If anything, it would tempt them to
draw the wrong conclusions if they knew all this stuff about me. Besides, there
is a lot more to come - yes, there will be more books - and I want them to keep
reading without prejudice.
But
then again, who knows.... Maybe someday in the future I will reveal my
identity....when the time is right. 
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